The "Problem" in that thinking is that your making too much of a difference between man and woman honestly. Both r just humans.
Woman can love each other to their deepest heart and sex between them can be very intense hot and statisfying (for them). Many Men just got drilled into the "action" of penetration etc. everything involving a penis as "real sex", but there is no "real sex". Woman can get orgasms even without having to touch thier intim parts just via stimulation of for example an earlobe through training. Men have an enormously sensible spot right up there rektum that u can even be reached with a little finger and bring stimulation to new never known hights.
Things are a lot less defined then people always want to belive or make it up in order to try to understand, as we usualy put everything into drawers (drawers thinking). I like your opinion as you have your drawer thinking but are open to more then just it. Many humans, no matter if man or woman havent tried to open thier horizone and go across what they got teached of bees and flowers and to develope free and creative individuel ways and ideas, but there are those who did or "just got born" with another way of thinking. How things should be or are is always a matter of perspectiv and belives - but never shall put nor man nor woman nor child their belives above the free will and belives of another human ... as long as no one gets hurt mentialy or physicaly. A woman isnt defined by public hair or muscels or how womanly she looks.
btw. if you want to get shocked look up wikipedia hermaphrodite and intersexuality articels. On avarage every 100th (thats realy a lot) is born slightly off of the "standard genitals" (even you could and u wouldnt know) and could be considered intersex. Theres a lot more to it then just "that one has a penis" "this one a vagina". There are hundreds of shades and if you ask me its a crime that many of those get right out "corrected" in most countrys after birth... being labled as malformation from the "norm" - dont make me laugh. Good that things are starting to change. Man the world aint black n white. Actualy u can even go so far to say that not every man is a man like every other man and same for woman, gender prejudices are up to some point useless, there are man closer to what we think how woman should be then some woman and women closer to be what we think a man should be like then men. We call Men "Men" and Woman "Woman" but it might be that there is actualy a lot more difference within these two genders then we can just tell and we have no darn names for it - drawer thinking again. Language barriers make it hard to explain it awesomely but yeah maybe whoever reads this gets the idea.
There is a "man" who got born a "man" who grew got muscels, a beard, manly voice, a bear of a "man" - went to the US Marines - a true man indeed. Well... he never thought so. He changed his gender to become a woman as he always felt something aint right. The outsides, our looks, arent defining what we are - hormons which cant be seen from the outside are who controll pretty much every behaviour of us and how we feel and even if we wanna live or die and as what we identify. They cant be seen with birth, so we label those who look like males male and those who look like females female... like in middle age... stone age.
Sorry for drifiting a lil afar :'P